The Art of Living:
The Three Stages of Enlightenment
These are the three stages of enlightenment, the three glimpses of satori.
1. The first stage enlightenment:
A Glimpse of the Whole
The first stage of enlightenment is short glimpse from faraway of the whole. It is a short glimpse of being.
The first stage of enlightenment is when, for the first time, for a single moment the mind is not functioning. The ordinary ego is still present at the first stage of enlightenment, but you experience for a short while that there is something beyond the ego.
There is a gap, a silence and emptiness, where there is not thought between you and existence.
You and existence meet and merge for a moment.
And for the first time the seed, the thirst and longing, for enlightenment, the meeting between you and existence, will grow in your heart.
2. The second stage of enlightenment:
Silence, Relaxation, Togetherness, Inner Being
The second stage of enlightenment is a new order, a harmony, from within, which comes from the inner being. It is the quality of freedom.
The inner chaos has disappeared and a new silence, relaxation and togetherness has arisen.
Your own wisdom from within has arisen.
A subtle ego is still present in the second stage of enlightenment.
The Hindus has three names for the ego:
1. Ahamkar, which is the ordinary ego.
2. Asmita, which is the quality of Am-ness, of no ego. It is a very silent ego, not aggreessive, but it is still a subtle ego.
3. Atma, the third word is Atma, when the Am-ness is also lost. This is what Buddha callas no-self, pure being.
In the second stage of enlightenment you become capable of being in the inner being, in the gap, in the meditative quality within, in the silence and emptiness.
For hours, for days, you can remain in the gap, in utter aloneness, in God.
Still you need effort to remain in the gap, and if you drop the effort, the gap will disappear.
Love, meditation and prayer becomes the way to increase the effort in the search for God.
Then the second stage becomes a more conscious effort. Now you know the way, you now the direction.
3. The third stage of enlightenment:
Ocean, Wholeness, No-self, Pure being
At the third stage of enlightenment, at the third step of Satori, our individual river flowing silently, suddenly reaches to the Ocean and becomes one with the Ocean.
At the third Satori, the ego is lost, and there is Atma, pure being. You are, but without any boundaries. The river has become the Ocean, the Whole.
It has become a vast emptiness, just like the pure sky.
The third stage of enlightenment happens when you have become capable of finding the inner being, the meditative quality within, the gap, the inner silence and emptiness, so that it becomes a natural quality.
You can find the gap whenever you want.
This is what tantra callas Mahamudra, the great orgasm, what Buddha calls Nirvana, what Lao Tzu calls Tao and what Jesus calls the kingdom of God.
You have found the door to God.
You have come home.
– Swami Dhyan Giten
Satsang with Giten on Buddha:
From satsang with Giten, March 3, 2016, in Stockholm
8. Right Samadhi
The eighth and the last step of Buddha’s Middle Way is Right Samadhi.
Samadhi is when you are totally absorbed into the center of existence, when you are totally absorbed into the heart of existence.
Our seventh chakra is flowering.
The preceding seven steps of Buddha’s Middle Way is a preparation for Right Samadhi.
The preceding seven steps of Buddha’s Middle Way leads to Right Samadhi.
But there is also the possibility of wrong Samadhi if you fall into unconsciousness.
Samadhi should bring you to total awareness, to perfect awareness.
You should not become unconscious, but one can become unconscious if you go inside so deeply that you forget the outside.
Ordinarily we live outside of ourselves, so completely that we have forgotten the inside.
But it is also possible to become aware of the inside and forget the outside.
Buddha says that this is wrong Samadhi.
Buddha says: Right Samadhi is when you are totally aware of both the inner and the outer.
In Right Samadhi, the inner light is burning so bright that it fills both the inside and the outside with light.
In Right Samadhi, both the inside and the outside disappears, there is only light.
Right Samadhi is not the inner or the outer, Right Samadhi is to be one with life.
In the book “Presence – Working from Within: The Psychology of Being”, I talk about being one with the whole:
The personality, the Inner Being and Wholeness
– The Three Layers of the Human Consciousness
What are the three layers of the human consciousness? How do the three layers of the human consciousness relate to therapeutic work? The human consciousness consists of three layers: 1. The personality, the psychological “I” 2. The inner being, the authentic self and 3. Wholeness – being one with the Whole.
The personality is the created sense of “I”. The inner being is our authentic self, our true individuality. The relation between the personality and the inner being is like the relation between the waves on the surface of the ocean and the silent, dark bottom of the ocean. The personality is the surface and the periphery of our total consciousness like the waves of the ocean, and the inner being is the depth of our consciousness like the silence at the bottom of the ocean.
The personality is a separation from life; the personality is a “no”-attitude to life through our separate ideas, psychological attitudes and concepts. Our inner being is a “yes”-attitude to life; our inner being is the door to oneness with Existence.
In our psychological and spiritual development process towards spiritual maturity, we first develop the personality. Then we develop the inner being, which is the door to develop wholeness, being one with the Whole.
The personality, the psychological “I”
What is the personality, the psychological “I”? The word “personality” originally comes from the Latin word “persona”, which means role or mask. The personality is the role that we play or the mask that we wear. The personality is the sense of “I” that we identify ourselves.
The personality can be defined as the created sense of “I”. The personality consist of all our accumulated experiences from the past. The personality consists of ideas, emotions, attitudes and concepts that we have been taught from others. The personality is built through learning and imitation by being born in a certain family, in a certain society, in a certain culture and in a certain time.
The personality consists of four layers:
3. The psychological head attitude
4. The physical body
The girder of the personality is the psychological head attitude. The psychological head attitude is the basic decision that we have taken early in life about how we relate to ourselves and to life. It is the of kernel of thoughts, feelings and attitudes, which exists as a basic attitude within us and determines how we relate to ourselves, how we relate to other people and how we relate to life as a whole. If we put this head attitude in a short sentence, it could, for example, be: “I do not trust that I am already OK and that life takes care of me”, “I am not worthy of being loved and accepted as I am”, “I can never get what I really need in life” or “Life is a struggle to survive”. This head attitude is like wearing a pair of colored glasses and unconsciously allowing them to color how we interpret and perceive reality.
The personality is a separation and a defense against life. The personality is based on the idea that we are a separate person, who is distinctly separated from other people and from life itself. The personality is like a small separate island in a large ocean.
The personality is a “no”-attitude towards life through our separate ideas, attitudes, judgments, dreams, ambitions and concepts. The personality shows us how we resist life, and how we defend ourselves against the wholeness of life through our separate ideas and expectations. From a psychological development standpoint, it is necessary to first develop a strong personality, a strong ego, before we can begin to develop our inner being.
The inner being, the authentic self
What is the inner being? The inner being is our essence and authentic self. The inner being is the Existential self; the inner being is our original face. It is to rediscover the self that existed before birth and which will continue to exist after death. The inner being is an inner “yes”-attitude in relation to Existence.
To rediscover our inner being means to discover that which is already perfect within ourselves. It is to discover the source of love deep within ourselves, which is our true nature.
To rediscover the inner being is to find the authentic self beyond the confines of the personality. The inner being is the unidentified witness and watcher of the layers of personality. Thoughts, emotions and the physical body is not aware about themselves, it is the inner being that is aware about the thoughts, the emotions and the sensations of the physical body. The inner being is the inner silent place, where we are not identified with the thoughts and its problems, with the emotions and their passion or with the sensations of the physical body.
Meditation is the way to develop our inner being. Developing the inner being through meditation can be described like the step-by-step process of emptying a room from furniture until finally the room is completely empty, and only a pure silence and emptiness remains.
In the inner being, we begin for the first time to experience the original life source beyond the personality; we begin to experience the unity within ourselves. The inner being is the silent place within ourselves, which is beyond conflict and duality. In the inner being, we can rest in ourselves. We can rest in a presence, a silence, without trying, without fighting, without intention and without ambition. We are not going anywhere, there is nothing to prove, and there is nothing to achieve.
In this inner presence, there is no sense of “I”, only a presence, a light, a joy, a love and a truth in the moment. The personality gives us the idea that we are somebody special, but in reality we are really nobody at all. And to be nobody at all is paradoxically enough the greatest joy there is.
To be nobody at all, a presence, a silence, a nothingness, is to be one with ourselves. And to be one with ourselves is to be in joy.
The inner being is the door to belongingness with Existence. Through opening this inner door, we can allow life to pass unhindered through us without interrupt the flow of life through our own ideas, attitudes, expectations and concepts. The inner being is an inner space, a silence and emptiness, without desire to achieve anything, without wish to be somebody special and without wish to reach anywhere. It is an inner space, where we can allow people, situations and life to be as it is. It is an inner space, where we can allow people to come and go, without clinging when they come and without holding on when they go again.
The inner being is a deep “yes” to life; the inner being is a deep acceptance of life. It is a deep acceptance of the reality of life as it is. The inner being is a depth within ourselves, which is as deep as Existence itself.
Rediscovering the inner being is to discover the and undefined and boundless within ourselves. Through opening this inner door within ourselves, we come home. We are home wherever we are. Rediscovering the inner being is to discover the limitless and boundless source of creativity within ourselves.
Wholeness – Being One with the Whole
What is wholeness? The word “religion” originally means “to return to the source”. It means to rediscover our inner being, our inner life source. The deepest pain in our heart is to be separated from life. We are separated from the Whole, from Existence. The deepest thirst in our heart is to return to our inner being, to our inner life source, where we are one with life.
“The most beautiful experience that we can reach is the mystical”, says Albert Einstein in the book “Living Philosophies.” The goal of meditation -if you can talk about a goal in connection with meditation – is enlightenment. In the depth of our inner being, we are really already enlightened. We are already an inseparable part of Existence, but we have forgotten our true inner nature. We have forgotten our inner Buddha. Meditation is the way to discover our inner being, our authentic self, our inner Buddha. Enlightenment is the fruit of meditation.
Enlightenment is to realize the highest development of the human consciousness. It is to climb the Mount Everest of human consciousness.
The philosopher Emanuel Kant was one asked what enlightenment is and his short answer was: “to grow up.”
During the time I was writing this book, I got a glimpse of wholeness on Easter Day April 16, 2006. I was having a coffee by myself in a café when suddenly a silence descended on me, and my separation from life disappeared like darkness from a room when you lit the light. Suddenly my whole perception of reality changed, and in a few second I learnt more than during 20 years in the university.
I was suddenly one with life, one with the Whole. It filled my heart with an ecstatic joy to be one with people, one with the Whole, without reaching out of myself. I felt accepted and loved by Existence as I am. In this wholeness, there was nowhere to go and nothing to achieve. I was suddenly part of God. I was coming home. It was a joy to be in a silent communion with people on a deeper level beyond words, rather with the usual nonsense that people waste theirs lives on.
The reason that people start wars is because they still believe in their separation from life. But when you experience this wholeness with all living beings, you understand that hurting somebody else just means that you hurt yourself, because we are all one on the spiritual level.
The word “religion” originally means “to return to the source”, and this experience is also a freedom through finding my own unique relationship to the Existential source, to the Whole, without depending on any church, organization, priest, faith or scripture – including the scientific rationalistic and materialistic religion.
What the Japanese Zen-tradition calls “satori” is a short glimpse of what enlightenment means. It is like when the lens of a camera opens for a fragment of a second and allows the light in. It is short glimpse of what is possible; it is a glimpse of the light, of the Whole, which always exists as a possibility in each moment in life.
Each human being is unique; each human being contains a divine spark, a divine light, an aspect of God. We are much more than we think we are.
The mystery and beauty of life is that it is impossible to understand, but we can live it. We can never really understand life, but we can become one with it. we can become one with the dance of life; we can become one with the ultimate mystery of Existence.
I remember an insight that taught me much. One day I felt that I had everything that I really wanted in life. I had a creative and meaningful work as a therapist and course leader, which allowed me to grow. I had a relationship with a beautiful woman, who I loved and who love me. I had friends that I trusted, and I had money to do what I wanted. But in spite of all this, I still felt that something was missing in my life. I was still not satisfied. The longing and thirst in my heart and being, still searched for something more. This made me realize that the deepest pain in my heart and being was that I was still separated from life, from the Whole, and that no outer things could ease this pain.
The inner being is the indefinable within ourselves, the ultimate mystery. It is so indefinable that we can experience it, but we ca not explain it. We can become one with it, but we can not understand it. It is the ultimate mystery of life.
We originally come from this existential source, and we also return to this source when we die. Death is the unconscious way to return to this original source, and enlightenment is the conscious way to return to this source. Death means to still believe in our separation from life, and enlightenment means to realize our inherent oneness with Existence.
The whole issue of enlightenment is still too large and overwhelming for me, but I feel that the deepest thirst in my heart and being is to become enlightened, to become one with Existence. I really want to understand deeply the mystery of life. I feel that the precious moments when my heart and being vibrates in oneness and harmony with life shows that I am on the right track. The open secret, the existential joke, is that enlightenment is really to search for that which you already are.
Enlightenment is really as simple as drinking a glass of water. But exactly because it is so simple, it becomes easy to miss. Enlightenment is so close to ourselves that it is easy to miss. It is about realizing that the door to enlightenment has never been closed. It is our own effort and restlessness that keeps the door closed.
In love relationships with another person, we can experience short moments of harmony and wholeness. But these moment are followed by separation, since relationships are a continuous balance between love and freedom, between meeting and parting again, between independence and being together and between separation and wholeness. Enlightenment means to discover this wholeness, this intimate relationship, within ourselves without being dependent on anybody else.
Enlightenment does not imply to be somebody special, or to be especially spiritual. It is nothing special about being enlightened. To be enlightened does not either mean to be higher than somebody else, just as a large tree is not higher or better than a little bush, or a rose is not better than a tulip. Enlightenment only means that we have discovered our authentic inner being, our inherent harmony with life, while somebody else will experience this on his own when the time is ripe. To be enlightened is to be totally ordinary, so ordinary that we are nobody at all, we are a nothingness. To be enlightened is to be a medium for Existence; to be enlightened is to be a spiritual healer. It is to be a channel for Existence through which the Whole can dance and sing. It is then that we become a flute on the lips of Existence through which the Existential music can flow. We become a song to ourselves; we become a healing Buddha.
Existence tries in every moment to give us exactly what we need with more love, compassion and ingenuity that we can ever imagine. When we trust life, we can relax and allow life to guide us to meet the people that we need to meet, and to make the experiences that we need to take the next step in our spiritual growth.
We think that we are separate from life, but in reality we are already one with life. We are an inseparable part of life. We belong to life.
If you want to try how independent you really are from Existence, then try to hold your breathe and imagine how long you would survive without oxygen. Life is a continuous development and balance between dependence and independence, between love and freedom, between our male and female qualities and between separation and wholeness.
We need the air, we need the earth, we need the houses, we need the roads and we need the pavements. We are not separate from life; we are a part of the Whole.
Existence totally supports us in our thirst and longing to return to the original source. Existence tries to help us to become enlightened, to realize that we are already one with life.
Spiritual healing means to heal the split between our idea of a separate sense of “I”, and everything that we already are. Spiritual healing means to heal our separation from life.
One evening when I meditated out in nature, my separation from life suddenly ceased. Suddenly I was one with life. It was an insight into the mystical unity of life, which filled my heart with a joy without reason. I was one with the Divine dance, one with the Divine play. It was a deeply healing experience, a feeling of being OK as I am, and that Existence loved me. A feeling of belonging to Existence.
When we realize that we are one with life, the whole world become our home. We are at home everywhere.
Enlightenment is like throwing everything up in the air – all our ideas, dreams and expectations, all our separate goals and ambitions, all our earlier spiritual experiences, all our ideas of who we are – and to see what comes down again.
We all seek enlightenment – independent of whether we are aware about this fact or not. We all seek love, joy, silence, truth, freedom and belongingness with life. Some people seek enlightenment in unconscious ways through work, power, success, relationships, sex or by becoming famous.
Enlightenment is not only a question of individual enlightenment, it is a question of global enlightenment. It is a question of creating a buddhafield, a paradise on earth.
Enlightenment is not only a question of individual enlightenment, it is also a question of collective enlightenment. Collective enlightenment means a global expansion of consciousness. It means to begin to think in terms of “we”, rather than “I”. To think in terms of “I” means to act from the personality, from the psychological “I”. The personality is a separation from life. To think in terms of “I” is to act from a “no”-quality. To think in terms of “we” is to be in contact with the inner being, with the authentic self, with the inner capacity to surrender to life. To think in terms of “we” is to be in contact with the inner “yes”-quality. It is to cooperate with that which is larger than ourselves. Collective enlightenment could also be called spiritual globalization – which is different from the economical globalization, which is only good for the few and bad for the many. When we realize that all living beings seek enlightenment, that all living beings seek love, joy, truth and freedom, we can develop a compassion for all living beings.
The seventh level of consciousness is placed on top of the head. It is called Unity or Crown chakra, and relates to opening to universal consciousness, to achieve the ultimate wisdom.
The seventh level of consciousness is about learning to know God. It relates to truth, unconditional love, enlightenment, and to the experience of being one with the Whole. It is a freedom and joy beyond words. The experience of the seventh level of consciousness is beyond words, and is hard to describe in words. It is a paradoxical experience of being everything and nothing at the same time. It is to discover that we have never really been separated from life. It is to be in a deep unity and harmony with life. Our small separate individual river has finally reached and joined the ocean of consciousness.
When we begin to open the seventh chakra, the thousand petaled lotus flower is opening. We have learnt the lesson of life. We have grown up. We have become spiritually mature. Our inner tree is bearing fruit. This unity with the Whole does not mean that our unique individuality is extinguished. On the contrary, it means that the richer our life experience is, and the more qualities we have developed, the richer becomes the quality of our enlightenment.
The last steps towards enlightenment must a seeker of truth take himself, without relying on any outer crutch or authority.
I drank a silent cup of coffee in a café and when I left the café, one of these rare and precious moments happened without any outer cause. Suddenly my whole perception of reality changed from separation to wholeness. I experienced an intimate belongingness with all the people that I meet. Jag was one with all the people, and experienced that all people come from the same invisible source. People has their own unique individuality, but they come from the same original source. It is diversity in unity. It was a sublime joy to walk around and experience that I was one with all the people that I meet.
Divine love is to realize that we are one with life. Real love is to realize that we are one with the other person, that we are one with the stones, one with the trees, one with the earth and one with the blue sky. It is to realize that the whole of life is God.
Enlightenment is a total “yes” to ourselves. It is a total love and acceptance of ourselves as we are.
Enlightenment is to live, love and be from the inner being, from the inner life source.
Enlightenment is to find our authentic inner being, our own unique quality and fragrance.
Enlightenment is the phenomenon of “disappearing” into the Whole, to become so one with the larger flow of Existence that it begins to sing and dance through us.
When we live in contact with our inner being, we find ourselves in an alive, intimate and expanding relationship with Existence.
Enlightenment is not a static phenomenon, it is to say “yes” to the truth of the moment. It is to embrace the living reality of the moment. Enlightenment is a dance with life, a dance with eternity.
The insight of enlightenment is the same in everyone, but they way to express the experience of enlightenment is totally unique depending on the fragrance, quality and life experience of the person.
Enlightenment is not an end, but a new beginning, which has no end. It only means that we realize that we are one with life – and that life is a dance of joy.
The dimension of being is a love affair with love. It is to return to the original life source.
Enlightenment is to be in an intimate contact with the ocean of healing like when the drop surrender to the ocean.
The Perfect Birthday Gift: The Existential Gift
– From death to the deathless, from separation to Wholeness
On May 15, 2009, it was my 50th birthday. This event emphasizes the relation between time and timelessness, between death and the deathless. During the Easter, 2009, I received the perfect unexpected birthday gift in advance, which was a gift from Existence.
I was 15 years old when I for the first time got the ice cold insight that I was never going to die. It was an insight that there was something in me that belonged to the deathless and the eternal. When I was 15 years old, this insight totally shattered my whole perception of myself and of life. It also created a thirst and longing in my heart and being to understand the mystery of life.
On Easter evening, 2009, I unexpectedly received the same penetrating insight that I am never going to die. It was the silent insight that my inner being belongs to the deathless and the eternal, which erased all my fears of death. This insight also taught me that death is not just an end, but a new beginning. Instead of death being a source of fear, death becomes a loving new beginning. The insight that my body belongs to time, and my inner being belongs to the timeless and the eternal, created a transformation of my whole being.
Later the same day this insight also expanded into a silent explosion of my whole consciousness. Suddenly I got the insight that I am one with life. one with the Whole. Suddenly I found that which I have searching for a long time, for many lives. It was like coming home.
Later the same day I took a walk and drank a cup of coffee in a small café. When I drank my coffee, I got the feeling that my physical body was too limited to contain my expanded and limitless sense of “I”. My expanded sense of “I” was much larger than my limited and confined physical body.
I could taste the limitless and boundless waves of the ocean of consciousness in my own heart and being. This created an almost overwhelming joy and ecstasy in my heart, together with a feeling of being loved by the whole. I felt like screaming with joy and gratitude.
– Swami Dhyan Giten
Quotes by Swami Dhyan Giten
The reason that people start wars is because they still believe in their separation from life. But when you experience the wholeness with all living beings, you understand that hurting somebody else is just hurting yourself as we are all one on the spiritual level.
The mother is the child’s first relationship, his whole world, his existence. If there is love in the relationship between the child and the mother, the child learns to trust himself, to trust others and to trust life. If there is no love in the relationship between the mother and the child, the child learns to distrust himself, to distrust others and to distrust life.
Give the child a taste of meditation by creating a climate and atmosphere of love, acceptance and silence.
The most precious gift that you can give to the child is unconditional love and acceptance, which allows the child to discover his own inner being, his authentic self, his freedom to be himself.
When we are, love is not.When we are not, love is.
The inner emptiness is the door to God.
When you come to the ultimate experience in meditation, when you come to your deepest core, you are no one. You are a vast emptiness.You can become afraid in meditation, because the deeper you go in meditation, the more you realize that you are nobody, a nothingness. It is a death of the ego. That is why people become afraid of meditation.
The deepest realization of meditation is that your being is a non-being. It is a nothing, a vast emptiness without boundaries. It is a no-self. The feeling of self, of I is false.
The inner woman is the source of healing. The inner woman is the source of silence. The inner woman is the source of love. The inner woman is the source of belongingness with life. Embracing the inner man and woman is to discover our inner roots and wings.
The heart is the door to our inner woman. The heart is the door to our inner world. The power chakra relates to the inner man. The power chakra relates to the outer world. Irrespective of if we are a man or a woman, the inner woman is the center of our consciousness.
When we stop judging others and ourselves, our heart begins to open.
The human heart is a healer, which heals both others and ourselves.
The human heart operates from two premises: I Am Responsible and Only Love Works.
In the depth of our heart, we already know that we are perfect as we are. In the depth of our inner being, we already know that life is perfect as it is.
A good man cares about others. A good man has not only selfish desires. He is not only centered in himself. A bad man has no concern for others. He has only selfish concerns. He is centered in his own world.
Love makes you feel at home in existence.
Love never ends.
To be able to die consciously, we need to prepare for death while we are still living.
Only if we live consciously, we can die consciously.
Only a meditator is able to die consciously as life is an opportunity to prepare for death. Meditation is a death, a death of the ego.
Despite 2000 years of evolution in modern times, we have still not managed to develop the intelligence to create a society that knows what love is. Our society is still not a civilization, it is still primitive and barbaric.
Deep within ourselves, we find the inner being, the inner source of love, which is our true nature. Love is the only reality, because only love works.
Acceptance is to love and embrace everything that we find within ourselves like a mother embraces her child.
The hardest time in this world is for the sensitive and intelligent people.
Silence is the Answer
From Satsang Weekend with Giten on Buddha,
December 11-13, 2015, in Stockholm
“Giten gave me life back. An awakening. I have seen the beauty in life, and I know that this is the way.
I like Giten a lot. He is fantastic. The presence and the impact he has on people. His wisdom and humor.”
– Prem Mukta, Artist & Music Management, Stockholm
”The satsang weekend with Giten was fantastic and made me aware that I have not really understood what meditation is before.”
– Lotta Briné, director in rehabilitation and treatment, participant in Satsang weekend with Giten, December 11-13, 2015, Falkoping
Buddha said: if an evil-doer, seeing you practice goodness, comes and maliciously insult you, you should patiently endure it and not feel angry with him for the evil-doer is insulting himself by trying to insult you.
When you grow spiritually, you will find that many people will get upset with you, because your spiritual growth, your presence, your love, your joy, your silence, create a guilt, a resistance, in them.
A good man creates comparison in other people, which will hurt their ego.
A Jesus must be crucified, because his his love, his presence, his light, hurt the ego. A Socrates must be poisoned, because his truth and authenticity creates a comparison. It mirrors others lies and unauthenticity.
If you live with unconscious and unhealthy people, your consciousness and health is dangerous to them.
People will come an insult you, because you hurt their ego, you hurt their lies.
When people insult you, you should remain at your center, you should patiently endure the insult.
You should remain in your center, in your silence, and be aware and watch the insult. You should not be disturbed by the insult. If you are disturbed, the insulting person has defeated you.
You remain silent, collected and calm.
Buddha says just keep quiet, endure it, remain patient and do not get angry with the person.
– Swami Dhyan Giten
Giten on Jesus Christ:
Not the Master
in Your Own Home Town
An excerpt from the book “Jesus Christ: The Way, The Truth and the Life”, which Giten is currently writing.
The book is a compilation of lectures during Satsang with Giten on Jesus Christ
AND WHEN HE WAS COME INTO HIS OWN COUNTRY, HE TAUGHT THEM IN THEIR SYNAGOGUE, INSOMUCH THAT THEY WERE ASTONISHED AND SAID, WHENCE HATH THIS MAN THIS WISDOM AND THESE MIGHTY WORKS?
IS NOT THIS THE CARPENTER’S SON? IS NOT HIS MOTHER CALLED MARY? AND HIS BRETHREN, AND HIS SISTERS, ARE THEY NOT ALL WITH US? WHENCE THEN HATH THIS MAN ALL THESE THINGS? AND THEY WERE OFFENDED IN HIM.
People were not so offended with Buddha or Lao Tzu as people were offended with Jesus.
With Buddha, he is so far away that you either do not understand him, or people could understand that he was the essence of the Upanishads.
With Jesus, people were offended, because he was just like them. They could not understand him. The said: “We know him! Isn’t he the carpenter’s son!”.
Buddha was also the son of a king, while Jesus was a carpenter’s son.
People could not understand. From where comes his wisdom?
They were offended, their ego was offended.
BUT JESUS SAID TO THEM, A PROPHET IS NOT WITHOUT HONOUR,
SAVE IN HIS OWN COUNTRY, AND IN HIS OWN HOUSE.
It has happened so many times that the people who are closest will always misunderstand.
We could expect the contrary, that the people of Jesus village would understand him first. The people of Jesu’s house, his family, his relatives, would understand him first.
But that does not happen.
A deep insight into the human ego is needed to understand it.
With those that are closest to you, it is very difficult to believe that they had gone beyond and above you.
If somebody else, who is not close to you, goes beyond you, the competetive ego does not arise.
But if your brother goes, and you are left behind, your ego is hurt.
You feel defeated, a failure. Then the easiest way is to deny that he has gone beyond.
Jesus offended his own village, family and relatives.
They knew Jesus’ birth date, they knew his father, his mother, his brothers and sisters.
So Jesus can not be forgive.
Jesus is a quality of love, but to be able to see this quality, you have to drop your ego.
The presence, the quality of Jesus offends, because you will feel that you have failed.
His very being, his presence, offends you.
With Jesus there are two qualities: either you follow him or you deny him, you become an enemy.
When Jesus was crucified, many felt a great relief.
Very rare people could follow Jesus, because they were ready to drop their egos.
And even those that followed Jesus, hesitated and had doubts, before they could say yes, before they can trust.
Jesus is a total yes to life, a total trust in life.
From the foreword of Giten’s book
“Presence – Working from Within: The Psychology of Being”
“Some time ago, I felt that I experienced more limitations, than possibilities in a spiritual organization, which I had belonged to for a long time. It became clear for me that I was prepared to expand, and take a new step in my spiritual growth.
To be spiritual does not mean to belong to a spiritual group. I felt that I had grown out of the kindergarten, and my inner tree was bearing fruit. Too many large trees can not grow in a narrow area.
This was a lesson to stand on my own feet; it was a lesson for me to live to my own life, to live my own truth, without following anybody else. I do not belong to any spiritual group or tradition, I am only interested to explore what it means to live with open eyes.
A friend came with a good advice during this period: “Go ahead without looking back, let others do their thing, that is their choice and freedom – you do need their limitation.”
– Swami Dhyan Giten
“It is not many things that modern psychology agrees upon, but all the different approaches of psychology agrees on one thing: that people in groups become more stupid. Individually people are more intelligent, because they have to take their own responsibility, but in a group they do not have to take the same responsibility.
The two basic power strategies to try to manipulate and gain control over another person are: silencing and attacking. Silencing means to not listen to, to exclude or ignore and not respect a person. Attack can both mean to attack a person directly or to try to discredit a person through lies, to ridicule a person or by spreading malicious rumours.
All organizations are more or less dysfunctional. In a dysfunctional group, the members of the group play three different roles: agressor, denier and victim. The agressor is the role that attack and ridicule people, the denier never knows what is going on, there is “no body at home”, and the victim is the resultat of these two roles.
It is always easier to follow a group without awareness, than to follow your own heart, to trust your own intelligence, love, truth, silence and creativity.”
– Swami Dhyan Giten
The Art of Living:
The Art of Being Happy
From Satsang with Giten,
June 18, 2015
The Art of Being Happy is the art of saying say to life. The whole message of Jesus is a total “yes” to life.
Whatsoever you do, do it happily.
Whatsoever you do, wherever you are, do not do anything unhappily.
Whatsoever happens, see out how you can find happiness in it.
If you know how to be happy, then even small things become great things.
Make being happy the art of living.
When you learn the art of being happy, it also begins to spread around you like the waves of the ocean.
THE ART OF LIVING
From Satsang, May 15, 2015
The Art of Living is to be yourself.
The Art of Living is to trust yourself.
The Art of Living is to learn to love and accept yourself.
The Art of Living is to be true to yourself.
Meditation is the way to learn The Art of Living.
The Art of Living is learning to live with love, awareness and truth.
Being is you. To discover your being is the beginning of life.
You can live in two ways:
1. Ego – effort and desire and
2. Being – no-effort, being in a let go with existence.
Rgeligion is The Art of Living.
5 keys to The Art of Living:
1. Be life-affirmative. Life is synonymous with God.
Live with reverence, great respect and gratitude for life.
Feel thankful and prayerful.
2. Make life an heartful, easthetic experience.
Become more sensitive, sensous and creative – and you will become more spiritual.
3. Experience life in all possible ways.
Experience all dualities and polarities of life: good/bad, bitter/sweet, summer/winter, happiness/sadness and life/death.
Do not be afraid of experience, because the more experienes you have, the more spiritually mature you become.
4. Live in the present.
Forget the past and the future – this moment is the only reality.
This moment has to become your whole love, life and death.
5. Live courageously.
Do not become too result-oriented, because result-orinted people miss life.
Do not think of goals, because goals are in the future – and life is in the moment, in the here and now.
The Art of Death
From satsang, April 30, 2015
“To be able to die consciously, we need to prepare for death while we are still living.
Only if we live consciously, we can die consciously.
Only a meditator is able to die consciously as life is an opportunity to prepare for death.
Meditation is a death, a death of the ego.
Death is not in opposition of life, death is the finale, the crescendo of life. How we die shows us how we have been living.
Death is not an end, death is a new beginning, a new life.”
– Swami Dhyan Giten
The challenge for the 21st century is The Silent Revolution of the Heart. It is not a revolution within an organization or a land in the traditional sense with violence, madness and blood shed. It is a revolution in human consciousness.
In society today there exists a deep split between the inner and outer world, between intellect and intuition, between male and female qualities, between rest and activity and between outer knowledge and inner wisdom. There is a rapid technological development in the society, but we seem to forget the most important factor: our self.
Humanity as a whole is in-between power and the heart in its psychological and spiritual development process towards spiritual maturity. The next step for humanity as a whole is to realize that real power is love and compassion.
The power chakra is the centre of the ego, the separated sense of “I”. The power chakra is about control, power and dominance over other people. A person who is on the development level of the power chakra wants to change other people, but he does not want to change himself.
Ordinary relationships are often power relationships, which is a fight and struggle between the partners needs and mine. Often the partner in a power relationship has the same strength to develop the power chakra.
The society is created out of the ego, and the need of the ego to create a hierarchy with power, status, respect, position, norms, roles and conformity. Many people in the West live in the power chakra, and are occupied with competing with others, to prove that they are somebody important, and finding their place in the hierarchy.
During the 20th Century has the psychological development level of humanity been on the awareness level of the power chakra. The focus of humanity has been on power, dominance, position, money and control over energy resources. We are technologically developed and this technology governs the development of the society, but this technology is at the same time destroying the earth. Energy resources are also a distinguishing theme in the power balance between countries.
Acting aggressively has its roots in fear, judgments and insecurity. Violence and aggressiveness is about control and dominance over another person. To judge and to be loving is two sides of the same coin. Judgments about another person are really about yourself. When we stop judging others and ourselves, our hearts opens. The heart is a healer that transforms fear to love, judgments to acceptance and separation to wholeness. The heart heals.
The 21st century means an inner awakening. It means a time to grow up. Many people talk about spirituality, meditation and inner development but it does not seem to change their lives. Our spiritual development depends on our commitment to our own development. We can use our free will to take on the challenge of life to grow or we can choose not to grow. This is the freedom that life gives us and it our own responsibility, but it seems that it is few people that accept life’s challenge to grow.
The 21st century represents a choice between the separation of ego and the vision of the heart. The silent revolution of the heart is a shift in human consciousness from the short-sighted perspective of the ego of “me” and “mine” to the focus of the heart on love and the needs of the other. It is a shift in consciousness from the short-sighted separation of the ego to the vision of the heart.
When we follow the way of the ego, the path of endless desires, it leads to struggle, conflict, exhaustion and separation from the Whole. The way of the heart is about learning to listen to our heart, to our inner source of love, joy, truth and wisdom. It is to be in a deep harmony with Existence.
When our heart is closed it creates an isolated and lonely feeling together with the attitude: “Nobody loves me”, “nobody cares about me” and “life is a struggle”, which makes us not see the love that is all around us.
A silent revolution of the heart happens when we start to care about another person, and it is a joy to put the needs of the other person before our own needs. It is on the awareness level of the heart that we begin to develop the sensitivity and awareness that makes us care about another person. The heart operates from the premises: I am responsible and only love works.
Love is to eat pizza with our beloved partner even though we hate pizza.
Our heart is the door to unconditional love both for ourselves and others. Our heart is really always open, but our judgments about ourselves and others keep it closed. When we stop judging ourselves and others, our heart begins to open. The way to healing is to learn to love and accept ourselves unconditionally. It means to embrace both our positive and negative sides with love and understanding. It means to learn to love everything that we find within ourselves.
We have been taught to love others, but not to love ourselves. But how can we love others without loving ourselves? The ABC of love is that we first need to learn to love ourselves before we can love anybody else.
Trust is a prerequisite for love. Without trust, love is without depth. It is like a plastic flower, instead of an alive, fresh and fragrant rose. Even if some people will let us down and make us sad and disappointed, it is no reason to let it undermine our basic trust in life. It is better to allow some people to let us down than not allow our basic trust in life to develop. Many people are so sleeping and unconscious that they really do not know what they are doing. They make us disappointed even if they do not really mean to. Even if we feel hurt, disillusioned and disappointed with people, see if you can give them love and understanding. A criterion for spiritual growth is that we begin to give love, rather than needing love.
Exactly as the rhythm of in-breathes and out-breathes of the physical body, the heart has also two poles: to give love and to receive love. Certain people are easier to give love to and other people are easier to be open to receive love. But to allow our love to become whole, we need to learn both to give love and to receive love.
Animals are great teachers in friendship and unconditional love. One of my course participants commented in a course, “I prefer animals before people, because animals cannot hurt me in the same way that people can. I myself still find it difficult to really trust that I am loved as I am. Even if I am aware about this, there is still a small part of myself that wants to contract, and which does not really trust that I am loved as I am and that life takes care of me. I find it easier to be present for others than to allow others to be present for me.”
Love and fear are two sides of the same coin. In the absence of love fear arises. In the light of love fear disappears, like when you turn the light on in a dark room. Fear is a contraction of our life energy together with an attitude of loneliness and isolation. Love creates an expansion of our life energy together with a feeling of love, joy and belongingness.
Love is the strongest power there is. There is no stronger force than love. Love is pure magic. Love transforms people without really doing anything. The sheer presence of love transforms people. There is nothing more holy than love, since love makes people whole.
Love accepts a person as he is. Love creates the freedom, which allows a person to be himself. Love creates the relaxation, which allows a person to relax into his inner being, into his authentic self. Love allows us to appreciate the beautiful being that we already are. Love allows a person to discover his true individuality.
Love is not an exclusive relationship with another person; love is a quality of our inner being. It is to discover the source of love deep within ourselves, which is our true nature.
In the depth of our heart, we already know that we are perfect as we are. In the depth of our inner being, we already know that life is perfect as it is.
It is on the awareness level of the heart that we begin to understand that we are not separate from life. We begin to understand that we are not small separate islands in a large ocean, but that life is one and that we are all small parts of the same whole. It is on the awareness level of the heart that we begin to understand what is important and meaningful in life. We begin to understand that life is about sharing, rather than hoarding, that life is about giving, rather than taking.
It is when we open our heart that we discover a sense of unity in love with other people, with the trees, with nature, with the sea and with the blue sky.
This is the silent revolution of the heart.
The human heart is the solution to the problems of the world.
The human heart contains all the answers.
– and they are still going strong